It is never about being right. It is always about doing the right thing.

It is not about meeting my needs. It is about serving others first.

It is never about me. It is about Him and what pleases Him.

Ultimately I decide based not on what I want or need or what I feel like doing. It is not about what is popular or what works on my advantage. The only question I need to answer before any decision is this: Does it honor God? If it does, then that’s all that matters.

Because it is about Him. Always has been and always will be.

And that fact makes it easier (at least for me), to do the right thing, regardless and despite of.

Side Notes:

I was thinking about my previous blog (A Wise Woman Builds) and the series that I am going to write about. I know that most of you who will read this will probably think that I am not considering what you are feeling, what you need and what you are going through. Because the truth is, everything that I have written is easier said than done. And you are right, I do not know what you are going through. Probably you think it is impossible to love and serve a husband who is not treating you right, or it is impossible to be patient and loving when your kids are difficult, or it is impossible to forgive when you are hurt pretty bad. It is even more challenging to do these things when we are the ones who are right. Yes, it might seem to be impossible and yes, you might be the one who’s right. But let me tell you this. It is not impossible when we know it is not about us, and it is not about being right. It is about doing what is right and what honors God. It is not about us, never has been, never will be. The good news is, since it is not about us, the burden is not on us too. God’s grace is available, and it is sufficient. Believe me, it works. We can’t live lives pleasing to God out of our own strength. I’ve tried it and it doesn’t work and it will never work.

So in order to be a wise woman who builds, this is what I challenge and encourage you to do. Get down on your knees and ask for His grace and live it out a day at a time. Apart from Jesus and His grace, our selfish, destructive selves will remain unchanged. He can change you, and His amazing grace can make you become the best wife, mom, person you can be, and we don’t get the credit. He does.

And another thing I want to add (on Building through your Words) is this: Read the Word of God, and spend time with Him, everyday. Let Him fill you. And then you will naturally overflow with words that will build your marriage, your family, and even bless the people around you.

Luke 6:45 (NIV) The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks